In this programme we will supply you with the framework for a safe, closed relationship.
Sex without condoms is an option if you’re in an exclusive relationship. First of all, you both need to test for HIV, and then you can act based on the results. Before you test, wait at least 4 weeks since the last time you had condomless anal sex with anyone outside the relationship. We recommend you use condoms until you have both had your results.
There is no risk if both your HIV tests are negative (unless one of you catches HIV from someone else later).
If both of you test HIV positive, check with your HIV doctor if it’s OK for you to have condomless sex together.
If just one of you tests HIV positive there are a few options to choose from:
The HIV-negative person could use PrEP medicine to protect themselves.
If you and your partner have sex without condoms, you should have an agreement about sex with other people. It’s really important that you can be honest with each other as you’ll both need to retest if you have condomless sex with other people.
Take our online questionnaire to find out if you need PEP.
First, you both/all need to test and you can then act accordingly based on the results. If you have a different HIV status to your partner(s) we can provide solutions for this. We would also recommend putting in place a relationship agreement, which helps you lay the foundations for a healthy and strong relationship.