Be confident on the street and in the bedroom

The rate of LGBTIQ hate crime is on the rise in London. Some of this is due to easier ways of reporting crime but campaigners say that more needs to be done to prevent attacks.

One of the key themes to stay safe is confidence. The police suggest it is best to walk tall and know where you’re going. Concentrate on your journey, not on your mobile phone or gadgets. While confidence doesn’t come naturally to everyone, planning helps. If you know where you are heading, how you are getting there and back and who you are meeting, it helps you look and feel more confident.

Other tips from the police on staying safe include:

  • If you’re out late, think about how you’re going to get home: pre-book a taxi or arrange a lift with a designated driver.
  • Steer clear of trouble. If you see any trouble or suspect that it might be about to start, keep clear. The best thing you can do is avoid it and alert the police.
  • Take sensible precautions if walking alone in the dark. For example, try to stick to well-lit, busy streets and be vigilant.
  • If you’re on the bus, sit near the driver or other people. Avoid empty carriages or empty top decks.
  • If you are being pestered, tell the guard or driver, or call the police.
  • Trust your instincts and if you think a situation is getting worse, try not to get involved and look for a way to leave.

If you’re looking for useful advice on staying safe in London, the Met Police have a handy guide:

In the bedroom

Confidence is important in the bedroom too. Surveys show that if you’re not confident, you’re more likely to have sex or take risks that you don’t want.

Confidence comes from preparation: knowing ahead of time what level of risk you are happy with. Be clear what kinds of sex you want and what don’t want to do. This helps you be more assertive and safer. Read more about assertiveness in the bedroom here [link to article]

Find out more about different levels of risk here: