Enjoying a healthy relationship

Studies show that people in long-term relationships are likely to be happier. However, there is a widespread myth that gay men cannot, will not, or do not maintain long-term monogamous relationships. The reality is that thousands of gay men are enjoying sexually satisfying monogamous relationships. Here are our top tips to help your intimate lives together grow.

Talk about sex

Talking about the type of sex you want – and how you can fulfil your partner’s sexual desires – can greatly improve the sex you have and the overall bond you have with your partner. Broach the subject openly, and see where it takes you.

Test your limits safely: monogamy does not have to be monotonous

Do you have a fetish you have never explored? What does he want? What do you want? Mix it up and keep it fresh. Role playing and testing out new things can keep the relationship alive.

Figure out what you are really yearning for

We can all get a little bored of the humdrum of daily life, and sometimes look to new sexual partners to fill the void. But what else would make you happy and fulfilled? Often it’s just a question of taking some time out to consider what you are really looking for that will provide the answer.

Ignore what everyone else is doing

It is easy to look at other couples and think their lives are so much rosier than our own, but nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. Focus on your relationship and make it the best it can be. Schedule some one-on-one time and maximise what is great about your relationship.