Relationships and HIV

On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me…

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you don’t have to think about safe sex. We asked couples if they have strategies for protecting each other from HIV.

Jeff and Adam

“Jeff has HIV, so we use condoms most of the time. He’s undetectable and we know that he can’t pass HIV on if his virus is undetectable. While I’ve said he doesn’t have to use them, it’s something that he feels strongly about so we mostly play safe. We haven’t really talked about PrEP. I thought about it but the clinic said I wasn’t at risk unless I was having sex with other people.”

Aitor and Felix

“We have had sex without condoms but we got tested before. We had sex a couple of times last year with other guys on holiday. We only play with others when we’re away. We used PrEP then. We are thinking about going on the IMPACT trial to get PrEP for free if we play with others.”

Sam and Guiren

“Most of the sex we have is together and we don’t use condoms. We did for the first year but we sort of stopped by accident and had a panic, so we got tested. We were both negative so said we would be honest with each other if we did anything outside of our relationship. We’ve been together 12 years and have played separately with the odd guy. Our rule is that we use condoms if that happens. We also get tested every year as you can pick other things up even if you are using condoms.”